This world is filled with diverse cultures, religions, people, languages, and more. Likewise, the personalities of people are not the same in two humans. Sometimes, a distinct personality helps a person to achieve great heights. But other times, it may lead to disorders also. High functioning borderline personality disorder (BPD) is one such disorder, and there are 4 types of BPD. Today, we will tell you details regarding these different types of BPD.
1. High Functioning Borderline Personality Disorder
It is a mental illness, and the person affected by it finds it hard to figure out what they want. It is marked by different mood swings, behaviors, and self-images. A person with BPD will not behave rationally and instead, they will always act in excess. For instance, they will respond with excessive anger, be overly depressed, or have panic attacks. Those reactions may last up to a few hours or up to days. (See PhD Vs PsyD in Psychology)
2. Signs and Symptoms of BPD
People suffering from this disorder will have difficulty assuming their place in this world among their family members. Some people may have all the below-mentioned symptoms, while others may have only a few. (Also read How to Deal With Family Members Who Put You Down?)
- People suffering from different types of BPD may like you from the core of their hearts. But they will have a sudden change in their likes and dislikes. The change in their preferences is even sometimes confusing for them as well.
- For them, every situation hit at the maximum level. Whether good or bad, every feeling is extreme, and so is their response towards it.
- They develop impulsive behavior like reckless driving, binge-eating, abuse (verbally or physically), or self-harming. They tend to have suicidal thoughts, difficulty with anger management, trust issues, etc.
- They will always try to evade abandonment. They can take extreme measures to make their relationship work. In contrast, they can end a years-long relationship in a moment to avoid abandonment. (Also read What is an Unhealthy Relationship?)
3. 4 types of BPD
The different types of BPD are :
A. Impulsive Borderline Personality Disorder
- As the name suggests, the actions undertaken in this category are impulsive, dangerous, and the person rarely cares about the consequences.
- These symptoms are known as a hallmark of this situation. A person who has an impulsive personality disorder may seem energetic, charismatic, flirtatious, detached, motivating, elusive, or engaging. (Also read Am I Passive Aggressive?)
B. Self-Destructive Borderline Personality Disorder
- This condition involves self-hatred. A person suffering from this disorder may have bitter feelings about themselves.
- They may give suicidal threats and often engage in self-harming practices like cutting, hitting, scratching, or even burning themselves.
- A person may often misuse the medicines prescribed to them, resulting in risky activities. You need to be prepared beforehand to tackle such a situation.
C. Discouraged Borderline Personality Disorder
- A person suffering from this condition has a constant fear of abandonment. They feel so afraid that they undertake extreme measures to prevent that abandonment. This behavior is the main symptom of identifying them.
- Unlike other different types of BPD, people suffering from discouraged disorder keep their feelings within. Therefore, this disorder is also known as a quiet borderline personality disorder.
- A few signs of people with discouraged personality disorder are neediness, co-dependency, and clinginess. Such a person may turn angry and show mood swings when their fear of abandonment triggers. (Must read How to End a Toxic Friendship?)
Some more habits of discouraged disorder types are
- They love to be high functioning, successful, and perfectionists in everything they do.
- They often feel that they do not have strong bonds with others. Therefore, they often feel lonely.
- They seek approval from others because they feel good at doing so, but they can self-isolate themselves too all of a sudden.
- They do not feel comfortable in groups and feel alienated.
- Like other disorders, they are also known to have suicidal behaviors.
D. Petulant Borderline Personality Disorder
People with this personality disorder are more controlling towards their partners. They have a strong feeling of not being loved and valued by their close ones. Their behavior is highly unpredictable than other types. They will always be dissatisfied with their life, relationship, partner, children, etc. (Also read Psychology of Ignoring Someone)
A person with the petulant disorder has the following behaviors:
- They are very stubborn and not ready to listen or understand another person’s point of view.
- They even have symptoms and activities related to passive-aggressiveness, unlike different types of BPD.
- They cannot be patient with anything, and they want what they want at that very instance. Sometimes, when things are not arranged according to their expectations, they get irritated and start throwing angry tantrums. (Also read 7 Signs That You Talk Too Much)
4. Tips for Healthy Communication
Above all, communicate with them and make them feel they are important and wanted. However, it can be challenging to have a conversation with a person with BPD. But, if the person with BPD is close to you, they would love to spend time discussing their feelings. (Also read How to Ask Someone to Do Something for You)
Only talking will not help; instead, follow the given tips for beneficial communication:
- Try to be more sympathetic and keep all other distractions away during communication, like phones, television, etc.
- Be more focused on the emotions and not the words because a person with BPD may not always match their words with feelings. They are worried sometimes, but they sound angry.
- There might come a moment when people with different types of BPD might overreact, but you have to maintain your calm during this situation and calm them down. You can do so by changing the topic.
- Never talk about the disorder because their reaction towards this might not be good. However, if you feel you can talk to them in a roundabout about things related to the disorder, you can try politely.
- Lastly, you can convince them to meet an expert during your communication. Remember, people with BPD never want to be left alone. And you are aware of the fact that their behavior might result in them ending up all alone.
Now, it’s your turn to take charge and make them realize how this disorder is affecting their lives. Softly convince them but do not overreact if they disagree with you that they have a high functioning borderline personality disorder. You are aware that these 4 types of BPD among the different types of BPD impact the lives of several people at a young age. (See How to Heal Yourself Emotionally?)